Sunday, April 12, 2009

How do you get the man in your life to bring you flowers?

I have know the man I love with all my heart since high school, we finally got together a little over a year and a half ago and by the sheer freakish humor of who ever is incharge, I wound up pregnant! while on birth control and using protection! figure that one out! But here we are about to find out what our baby is and, with my hormones running wild I feel as though I am being treated like the same ol girl who in high school! that girl who would not have wanted flowers or to be treated like a girl but wanted to be treated and acted like one of the guys. But I am finding now that I do want flowers and I do want for him to do special things, but I do not want to just come out and say %26quot;buy me flowers or someting%26quot; PLEASE HELP! Aside from the crazed hormones how do I let my man know I need to feel special, and not just the baby maker

How do you get the man in your life to bring you flowers?
As a man, I think that you are going to need to give him the hint -- and to you as a woman, this will more-or-less mean that you need to tell him flat out because most of us men do not understand these kinds of hints very easily -- that you would like him to buy you flowers and etc, or at least that you would like him to do things to make you feel special.





Do you have any close friends who also know your man? If so, maybe you could ask one of them to have a talk with him. That way you wouldn%26#039;t have to spell it out so maybe it would seem more romantic?





I bet he would be happy to do these kinds of things for you to make you feel special, but a lot of times, we (men) don%26#039;t really understand what we have to do to make women feel this way. Unless you tell him or get someone to tell him, I don%26#039;t know how he will find out, especially if you used to consider yourself as a person who wanted to be treated %26quot;like one of the guys%26quot; and not in the way you%26#039;re talking about now.
Reply:Men are not mind readers, do both of you a favor and tell him what you want. I don%26#039;t even do that anymore. I just buy myself what I want and tell him this is what you got me for my birthday or Christmas. We are both happy this way. I get what I want and he doesn%26#039;t have to guess or do the shopping.
Reply:If he bring flower that when you shud worry, he only do if he feel guilty.
Reply:Buy yourself the flowers and when he asks why tell him getting flowers makes you feel good and you feel like you need a lot of feel good things around you right now. Hopefully, he will get the hint.
Reply:awww, first of all, I feel for you!!!! I know what hormones can do to us, AND what its like to wanna feel that special while the guy%26#039;s so in the dark, knowing nothing about it.





well, I think there%26#039;s a smart way of doin it.. why don%26#039;t YOU do something special for him one day - say a special candle-lit dinner on the table instead o%26#039;your everyday on-the-run meal.. or a flower on the pillow, anything YOU would have liked him to do for you.. %26amp; he%26#039;ll probably ask %26quot;whats this all about%26quot; so you just slid a remark - nicely, sumthin like %26quot;hey, its nice to make your partner feel special every once in a while!%26quot;.. .Or %26quot;I just thought of what you mean to me %26amp; wanted you to know that I care%26quot;.. sumthin that will stir up this kinda thought in HIS head!! - Im sure he cares, it just doesnt occur to guys, they need a little push sometimes!


hope this helps,


best of luck sweetie!
Reply:You dont silly. If he aint that kind of guy then that is who he is. I have tried asking the guy to bring them and gave him many different ways to do this and times to do this and never once did he do it. OH, except when we would argue and he was clueless of the reason we would argue and he didnt want to back track why we were argueing nor did he want to listen to why i was angry, THIS is where he would go out and bring me flowers!!! the kind I specifically said I did not like.LOL but anyways, they wont bring them if they are not that kind of guy unless they are super mature and a good listener.
Reply:For one your man is not a mind reader and if he hasn%26#039;t done that maybe he is just not a sensitive thinker like that, although that%26#039;s a very common gesture from a gentleman , but if you are persuasive enough maybe you could give him hints by asking him to go to a flowershop to look at the flower buquets and say something like( I love these!) or my friend%26#039;s o%26#039;l man got her flowers, I think that%26#039;s beautiful don%26#039;t you think? I mean a closed mouth doesn%26#039;t get fed sweetie.
Reply:tell him your needs. dont tell him to bring you flowers, doing that, you might as well buy them for yourself. tell him you need something a little extra from him.
Reply:I pretty much had to tell my husband outright that I wanted flowers. I even had to tell him that tulips were my favorite. It made me feel dumb at first because I wanted him to surprise me, not just do it because I said so. But when he did, I told him how much I loved them (and him) and thanked him for doing it. Now I get flowers on all our special occasions without me asking for them- I still remember to thank him and tell him how much I appreciate it. Sometimes guys just can%26#039;t take a hint so it%26#039;s okay to tell them directly what you want from them.
Reply:You ask him, he%26#039;s not a mind reader.
Reply:Honey you have to tell him men don%26#039;t know unless you do they are a different species.Let him kow how you feel and that your no longer one of the guys but the mother of his unborn child and that you want to be treated like a woman



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